Good morning! Another day has come. It’s weekend fellas! What a good way to start the day by reading some of the inspirational and worth the time blog entries here. I have mixed emotions while reading those. Some makes me sad, giggle, wonder and many more.
I try to write everyday, share my thoughts with you and make a point that I would inspire others with the words jotted down here. It’s a strange feeling being commended by some people here, isn’t it? That’s one of the reasons why I made this blog with no second thoughts.
Months ago, I was troubling with my mother. She expected a lot from me. She even wanted me to do something that I didn’t want to as if I always disappointed her. I always said, “I’m already a grown-up man. And I know now what is right from wrong. I know now how to decide for myself. I’m not that numb. And don’t you ever compare me to others out there.” As she raised her voice, I surprised myself again by saying, “Don’t even think about it! All those years you tried to break me and I’m still here. I’m a good person. I try my best in everything I set to do. I make mistakes, I screw up, but I learn. I don’t blame others for my problems. I stand on my own. I won’t waste my life. If you thought me anything, you taught me that.”
That was a crucial juncture for me. I never planned it, and I never meant to be arrogant, but as I spoke those words I could feel a giant weight lift from my shoulders. Those few moments in time set my life on a different course. I didn’t have to repeat the cycle of hate and self-destruction that I had been exposed to. And no matter my past, I had just made my declaration to break away from a sickening environment.
Now, after a few hard knocks, I stand up for myself. I ask the hard questions. Without being arrogant or rude, I’ll speak my piece. Everyday I do my best and if there are those who disagree with me, it’s not the end of the world. There can be endless reasons why folks may not like us, no matter what we do. Without any feelings of revenge and animosity. I no longer beat myself up in the wain of hope of other’s consent. At times it’s a hard balancing act, but I keep myself in constant check, I can do no more.
I’m not saying that I don’t need my mother anymore. That’s so impossible! I’m just trying to point out that I’m a matured man already. I’m a wise man and I have own ways in life. I just want my mother to understand that his son has own life. All I need is a personal guidance not a parental one, because I’ve been to that course already.
My recommendation is not to waste your time and energy. There are far more important things in life. When you please others in the hopes of being accepted, you lose your self-worth in the process. As elementary as this sounds: To help yourself, you have to be yourself. Be the best person you can possibly be. When you make a mistake or feel beaten down, learn from the situation and pick yourself up. The folks you may be trying to impress, if they like what they see, will most likely come to you. And instead, you can apply your time and efforts in a different direction, in favor of others in need who could benefit from your unique qualities and sincerity.
By being more self-assured, you’re not only taking a stand but you will actually learn more quickly to adapt to a negative environment.